SHOUTOUT to all YOU amazing Better Business Babes!
As women we do so much, multitasking all day long, juggling the unending responsibilities of life: kids, spouse, friends, business, family, and, always last, ourselves. In the midst of it all, we work to take proper care of ourselves too ~ it is essential to survival.
Yet, so often we lose focus in life and get too overwhelmed with the abundance that surrounds us. Hastily squeezed in between everything else, we are often at the bottom of our care list. We push ourselves to the point of exhaustion where we are physically and mentally tapped out. Sound familiar? Ladies, enough is enough. We need to free ourselves from the people and things that don’t serve us well, that are simply not uplifting. Now, please don’t wrinkle your nose at this point. It might sound cliché or selfish, but it’s not. We are given one life and we want to live to the fullest.
The truth is we CAN get closer to more inner and outer balance, less stress, and discover a meaningful perspective on the things that matter most.
“Declutter with purpose and ultimately reboot your life.”
I call this: Decluttering Your Life with Purpose. It’s not limited to your closet, garage, or purse. It applies to all areas of your life.
“Decluttering our lives helps us to focus on what’s important.”
How can we possibly have happy relationships if we ourselves are not balanced, creative, healthy, rested, and focused – in short: the best – version of ourselves? The answer: we can’t. We ought to start with our own self and declutter our lives in order to break free from the toxic, unnecessary, unhealthy cargo, in order to rise to the top of our potential, to thrive. I declare this a necessity. It is the very definition of self-care. Decluttering our lives helps to focus on what is important, which ultimately paves the way for all other moves we make in life, such as how we continue living it and who we allow in it.
“Remove the physical junk and reorganize your environment This is the first big step towards a clear, healthy mind.”
As a matter of fact just last week, I ran around my house on a serious mission, throwing everything out I didn’t need. It was like a revolution! I was brutally honest with myself. Boy, did that feel good! Once I got started, I could barely stop. I was freeing my mind. A clutter liberation!
I am a writer and have come to realize that I need a tidy environment to thrive—non-cluttered surfaces, clean desk and structures, organization, and a few creative essentials for inspiration. If there is too much going on around me, my mind goes crazy. I will have a hard time concentrating. My creativity is blocked or easily distracted and my writing suffers…which means I suffer.
“Clutter can be visual noise”
We tend to accumulate so many material things. But do we really need them? We place undue value on material consumption, whether it be of sentimental or financial nature. All this stuff becomes a sort of visual noise, overloading and distracting our concentration, especially when the clutter is visible/all/around/us/all/the/time!
Hence, we feel stressed and moody oftentimes without realizing that this clutter is a source of that stress. Our minds get overwhelmed, our senses are over-stimulated, we feel restless, grumpy, anxiety-ridden, slightly agitated, impatient, confused, and scores of other negative emotions. This affects all other areas of life in a negative way.
Clutter causes suffering:
- Reminds us of the things we h ave not accomplished.
- Makes it frustratingly difficult to quickly clean up after a long day.
- Creates more daily work, requires more valuable resources.
- Distracts us from the basic essentials of how little we actually need
- Wastes our precious energy on immaterial stuff, instead of experiences, rest and relationships.
“Walk away if a relationship is toxic.”
Decluttering isn’t meant for only material stuff. Listen up: We need to declutter our relationships. It makes zero sense to keep a relationship where there is no balance, no mutual understanding, no respect, no honesty, as it will always drag you down. “But How do I declutter a friendship?”. Step one: Be brutally honest in analyzing it’s toxicity. Step two: cut it out of your life. For women, this is tough. It’s not easy to breakup with someone. Stay strong and walk away if it is toxic. Decluttering doesn’t stop at the trash can or donation center, it is as much of a psychological process as it is a physical one. And we are all better for it.
Not long ago, I came to realize that I needed to cut someone out of my life completely. It was simply a sheer necessity for me. I needed to move on and I should have done so earlier, even though it was painful. We are all evolving and sometimes certain things and people just do not fit into our lives anymore as harsh as it sounds, and that is LIFE. And if ended with kindness, love, forgiveness, openness, and/or self-preservation, we do not need to apologize for it either.
I invite you to take a moment and think about the following two questions:
- Is your head spinning all too often and you wish you had a more organized mind, more focus, and a clearer perspective on things?
- Are there areas in your life that you honestly think need to be cleaned out and re-structured?
It’s not uncommon that we find ourselves stuck in a routine that we (mistakenly) consider normal, without taking the time to stop and turn inward, asking ourselves if we are truly happy with how things are. Hence, starting with cleaning out physical space means we automatically get more mental clarity to tidy up our brains. This, in return, supports our mental and emotional health. We refocus. We become open to new possibilities. This eventually helps us put our relationships into perspective and decide if we need to rethink some. Trust me when I tell you this: it is necessary in order to THRIVE.
Imagine a large, fragrantly radiant, beautiful rose bush—the plant cannot grow, thrive or bloom if the dead leaves and stems are still hanging on–only when the dead, dried up petals have been cut off will it bloom more roses. It is natural law.
Now, where does decluttering process begin?
- Business / Workspace: Start in your desk. Move on to desktop, folders, emails. Declutter information, clear out emails and texts, organize filing.
- Home: Eliminate clutter on the counters, tables, and shelves, in the drawers, as well as in your closet. Buy bins, go on Pinterest, and be ruthless when throwing away STUFF.
- Life: Re-think routines and commitments: What does your daily life consist of? Who do you wish to spend more time with, but never do? Who/what has priority? Who/what do you want more versus less of? Keep a practical and minimalistic mindset about it. Less IS more.
When actively decluttering your workspace as well as your home, ask yourself the following essential questions (always works for me):
- What is my goal? Why am I doing this?
- Do I really use/wear a specific item frequently?
- Have I used/worn it in the last 6 months, year etc.?
- Do I need this item in my life?
- Can I live without this item?
- Does it simply have sentimental or financial value?
- Does it make me thoroughly happy?
- What will a) throw in the trash; b) donate; c) keep?
- Is this information important for a happy life? OR is it outdated and useless for me?
These questions help when deciding when to let go of certain people in the pursuit of living a happier, balanced life:
- Is this person a positive and healthy influence?
- Is the relationship mutual, balanced (give and take), honest, respectful? or am I putting too much energy in this relationship and don’t really know why? Is it dominated by guilt, contempt, sentimentality, or obligation?
- Am I excited to see and spend time with this person?
- Do I feel happy when I am around him/her? OR do I feel dragged down?
- How am I feeling after hanging out with that specific person? Am I my best self when around this person?
Lastly, ask yourself the brutally honest, yet necessary question:
- What does this person contribute to my life and what do I contribute in return? OR is it a toxic/stale relationship that I am better without?
I truly believe being completely honest with yourself, especially once you have started decluttering, is of utmost importance. By getting to the core of those questions you quickly learn what exactly what you’re holding on to. Once the move to declutter is made, you will soon come to realize how liberating this can be. Recharge, refocus, reboot.
In case you still need some motivation at this point, allow me to highlight a few wonderful results of “Project Decluttering” that I have experienced firsthand.
Benefits of Decluttering:
- A happier, more positive outlook on life.
- Better concentration.
- New productivity and creativity flow.
- Less stress and more inner balance.
- Newly defined goals, including a clear perspective on the path I want to be on.
- Focus on the things and people that truly matter – setting my priorities right.
- Healthier, more meaningful and uplifting relationships.
- Gratitude for the things and people I chose to keep and have in my life – they are even more meaningful now.
“Are you ready to reboot your life?
Then declutter your life!”
Finding the right time to start might seem difficult though. Frankly, the time is now. Just start. Look around you. What doesn’t serve you? What do you simply not need? What is causing more stress than bringing you joy? Who do you hold on to even though you know letting go and moving on is pretty much the only right thing to do? Reflect, turn inward, and be honest with yourself. Start organizing your life – and you will become a healthier you.
“Actively choose to let go by cleaning out the junk in all areas of life, for the sake of personal growth and liberation.”
You will be able to breathe again.
I would love to hear your opinions on decluttering life. Have you tried it? If so, has it helped you? Do you have a certain routine?