Where there is human life, there is comparison. We live in a world filled with “what you should be” or “what you need to be.” Every time you turn on the TV or open a magazine, you’re inundated with unrealistic, “perfect” pictures of women and men. The obsession to have a certain body type or to wear “such and such” designer, has created a culture obsessed on what you have and not who you are. How depressing. I ask myself: what would the world look like if we lived for being the one-of-a-kind person you were created to be? And start with what’s on the inside? Can you imagine a culture that values what’s in your heart more than what’s in your wallet? A culture obsessed – not with what you look like, but with the joy you bring to others, or the way you serve your community?
Most of my teen and young adult years were filled with striving to keep up. I was incessantly comparing myself to others, my friends, my peers. I was always trying to be perfect, have it all together and stay within safe zones; in other words, “performing.”
Then I hit a quarter-life crisis at 31. After shingles and sleeping disorders, I vowed to devote some quality time to my well-being. Let me tell you that this was one of the most painful, yet most rewarding seasons in my life. Over the next year, I focused inward.
Self-work is often the most uncomfortable work we’ll ever do. It requires digging. It requires confronting. It requires answering questions you don’t want to answer. It requires vulnerability. For me, it also required accepting and owning the value I placed on myself.
It took a deep understanding of how I got swept up with the current of “comparison” culture to see that I almost drowned in it.
Through my self-exploration I was able to break free from the image of who the world told me to be. As a result, I was able to regain the authentic “me.” Working on the inside allowed me to gain clarity on the outside. My values became a reflection of my heart. My soul became satisfied. I began to recognize and love the person in the mirror. My relationships began to flourish. I regained happiness in ordinary days. I had more energy to devote to the people I loved and wanted to serve. It was here where I found the authentic ME.
You may ask: What was it that made this transformation possible?
The Answer: StrengthsFinder. It was the catalyst that started my journey and is how I was able to reclaim my identity.
StrengthsFinder is an online assessment that measures the intensity of your specific talents and if we learn to intentionally apply these talents we can accomplish great things. I discovered my top 5 strengths:
Learner / Responsibility / Discipline / Positivity / Restorative
This completely changed my career and my self-image. It revealed I had real power behind what came so naturally to me. So, for the first time, I stopped comparing myself to the world around me, and instead I focused on my strengths. The good stuff. The stuff that made me feel strong. It was through my Strengths discovery I was able to build a solid foundation of what truly made me-“me.” With this confidence I was able to see the world and myself in a very different way. I found that being “me” was so much better than being someone else, that is was easier and gave me more leverage to succeed. But most importantly, it gave me a purpose. It gave me hope that I didn’t have to stay where I was and that things could be different. It gave me confidence and defined what really made me “me”. And it gave me direction. I quit my 6-figure job and started my own business, reCreate.
This is what reCreate wants for EVERY.SINGLE.PERSON. We want to help you rediscover your purpose. We want you to know that being “you” is the best thing you can do for yourself, your family, your relationships, and your careers. This is where the magic happens. This is where we stop drowning in the current and start living out our strengths!
Define your strengths and you will find the path to reclaiming the authentic YOU.
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